Sunday, February 5, 2012
Nonviolent Communication and Conflict
This is a great topic this week because my husband and I have had conflict this week about money. A typical conversation of conflict for married couples, I expect. For a change, the argument isn't about not having money, it's about having money and not agreeing what to do with it. I realize after we did the communication inventory last week that my husband finds me to be aggressive during conflict. So this week I vow to use some of the tools in the NVC and the 3 Rs to help come up with a solution to the conflict. One important tool from those skills is to use respect. This is important because I need to listen respectfully to his thoughts and reasons without interrupting or using rude comments towards him. I think the best way for us to solve the conflict is to write down what we each think and weigh the positives and negatives of each. It is important to use the NVC and 3Rs when doing this and hope that he does the same. I am interested to know what others think of this situation and how to solve the conflict.
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Nicole,
ReplyDeleteI believe this is an issue all married couples have a conflict in. I think the listening skills is the problem. We don't listen enough to each other in order to come up with a solution or agreement with spending money issues. I learned alot from reading chapter 7- Managing Conflict in Relationships in the text on how to use tactics that can help foster debate. Using the NVC concepts and 3R's will be helpful to solve the conflicts, but I believe it takes both to exercise them.